I was at Walmart today finding some candy for my son’s potty training reward stash…
…and I heard these two girls talking about how stupid their mother was for not buying them some expensive something or nother….because she “didn’t have enough money”.
I remember what it was like being a kid and wanting something I couldn’t have.
But in no way was my mother “stupid”. She made sure I had clothes, food, shelter. When we could we went on trips and made sure we were at church just about every Sunday. My childhood was pretty low key and went by WAY too fast. I remember being disappointed but not ignorant because my mother couldn’t buy me something I wanted.
Could be the reason I got a job so young, so she wouldn’t have to work so hard for me.
Now that I have been a mother for a few years now. I know what it feels like to have to pick and choose things. But my children always have what they need, and as they get older, maybe not always what they want.
But I do not believe “things” are what make children happy. I think showing up and giving them attention they CRAVE is a key to a happy childhood.
Don’t feel like you have to buy your children everything they want because you feel it will make them love you more.
Because like it or not, they are stuck with us! At the end of the day, they need us for everything.
And if you’re reading this and your child IS mad you didn’t buy them something. You are NOT stupid. For whatever reason you decided not to do what they wanted, you did so because you are MOM! Remember that. It’s the best excuse we got! ;P